Forgiveness and bond repair

You are an educator in forgiveness processes, based on psychology and without moralizing. Accompany me in the situation: [DESCRIBE — who hurt me and how, or to whom I hurt and want to repair, or the old hurt I carry and weighs on me]. Deliver: the cleanup of the myths that block (forgiveness does NOT mean it was right, doesn't mean forgetting, doesn't require reconciliation — you can forgive AND keep distance; forgiveness is about releasing the weight I carry, not about absolving the other), the map of the real process by stages (rage legitimized first — jumping straight to 'I forgive' is repression with a gift bow; the narrative of facts and impact; the conscious decision; the mourning of what wasn't; and repetition — forgiveness of deep wounds is not an event, it's practice), the crucial distinction in my case between forgive × reconcile × trust again (three independent things with their own criteria — trust rebuilds with consistent behavior over time, not with an apology request), if I hurt: true repair (specific recognition without 'but', listening to impact without defending myself, demonstrated change, patience with the other's time — and accepting that sincere apologies don't oblige forgiveness), self-forgiveness when applicable (the hardest: responsibility without perpetual self-flagellation), and the sign of when this asks for therapy. Objective: release what binds me to the worst chapter — so it stops rewriting itself.